A Weekly Q&A Column About Professionalism, Etiquette and Problems in the Workplace
by Sue Morem
Dear Sue: The person who follows my shift is making petty
complaints about me. My supervisor has no problem with the things this
coworker is complaining about, but it still bothers me to have these
things in writing. I donít want to duplicate his behavior, because it
accomplishes nothing, but I donít like being made to look bad either. How
do I deal with this?
Sue says: Aside from talking with your supervisor and the
employee who is complaining, to determine the real problem, if you are
concerned about looking bad, think about things you can do to compensate
and make yourself look good. Some people are impossible to pleaseóand
donít forget, the more you react to others, the more of a reaction they
will seek from you. Sometimes the best reaction is no reaction at all.
Dear Sue: I went back to work because my husband was laid off. I
was upfront with my boss, and told him that my husband was unemployed.
However, although I told him when my when my husband finally got a new
job, I didnít tell him he was let go after only two months.
Iíve just been offered a new position within the department I am in. I
donít know what kind of raise I will receive, but I wonder if it would be
higher if they knew my husband was without a job again. I know my boss
will eventually ask how my husbands new job is going, and I am not sure
what I should I say.
- Hiding the truth
Sue Says: Unless your husband has asked you keep quiet, I canít
think of any reason you should hide the truth. Sooner or later, it will
come out, so you may as well be the one who decides when.
You were promoted because of your track record and ability, not your
husbandís employment status. The raise you receive should be commensurate
with others in similar positions; focus on yourself and your work, and
leave your husband out of it.
Sue Morem is a professional speaker, trainer and syndicated columnist. She
is author of the newly released
101 Tips for Graduates and
How to Gain the Professional Edge, Second Edition. You can contact her by email at
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