A Weekly Q&A Column About Professionalism, Etiquette and Problems in the Workplace
by Sue Morem
Announcing Your Departure
Dear Sue: I work for a great company. I manage a group of about
20 people, who are more like family than coworkers. Several weeks ago, I
was approached by another company and offered a job opportunity I couldnít
refuse. The most difficult thing for me now will be saying goodbye to the
great group of people I work with.
My boss and I are going to announce my departure next week at a
luncheon. I know it will be emotional. Do you have any advice on how I can
Sue Says: Saying good bye is never easy, and it sounds as though
you may not be the only one who will have a difficult time controlling
your emotions. If you are concerned about becoming emotional, you donít
have to be. An emotional farewell is not a bad thing. The emotions you
have are a positive reflection of the relationships you have developed
with the people you've managed. I realize it wonít be the same once you
are gone, but unless you are moving far away, you will be able to stay in
touch with anyone, if you chose to do so.
My advice: Let your feelings show. Tell this great group of people what
you have told me. Let them know they've become more like family than
coworkers, and saying good bye is the most difficult aspect of moving on.
If you think it will be too difficult to say, prepare something in
writing. You may decide to read it or have someone else read it for you.
Good luck with your new opportunity. I have a feeling that once you are
in your new position awhile, youíll meet some wonderful people, who
someday, will feel like family too.
Dear Sue: I work with a woman who hates everything about me. My
boss knows it too as she doesnít try to hide her feelings. This has been
going on for three years. I like my job, and need to keep it for financial
reasons. How can I deal with her in a way that shows her she can not hurt
me? Ė Disliked
Sue Says: I am not sure how youíve responded to her in the past,
but since it hasnít helped, itís time for you to respond differently. The
first thing Iíll suggest may be the most difficult for you to do: Donít
let her get to you. I am not sure what transpired between you, or why she
hates you, but when you respond to her, you give her what she likely
wants; a reaction.
Donít talk about her to other people, and when you are around her,
remain as calm and neutral as possible. Although I often suggest trying to
work things out, it may be futile in your situation. However, if you think
it would help to talk to her, it may be worth a try. Let her know youíre
not looking to be friends or change her opinion of you, but in finding
ways to make it easier for the two of you to work together.
Whether you talk with her or not, donít let her get the best of you. Be
yourself, focus on the positive aspects of your job, and try to ignore
her. When you must talk with her, be brief, courteous and professional. I
realize it may be difficult, but you will be the better person if you do.
Sue Morem is a professional speaker, trainer and syndicated columnist. She
is author of the newly released
101 Tips for Graduates and
How to Gain the Professional Edge, Second Edition. You can contact her by email at
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