A Weekly Q&A Column About Professionalism, Etiquette and Problems in the Workplace
by Sue Morem
Hard Worker Gets No Respect
Dear Sue: I am an architect for a company I started working for
eight years ago. In addition to the many projects I work on I have been
responsible for setting up all of the computers and networking them back
to our main office (over 400 miles away) and then teaching the other
employees how to draw on a computer.
I produce the most work, because I work lots of nights and weekends and
I rarely take a lunch or other break. I love my job but I know I am
underpaid and I do not feel I get the respect I deserve.
Other people are getting credit for the things I do and I am afraid if
I don't do something fast that things will get worse and we are struggling
to make ends meet at home.
Iím not good at brownnosing with the boss and often miss out on
volunteer and other relationship-building opportunities because I have so
much work to do. Do you have any suggestions?
- Getting no respect
Sue Says: I understand why you are writing to me and why you are
upset. What I canít see is why for eight years youíve continued to do what
Youíre not getting ahead because you said you are struggling
financially; youíre not getting recognition because you said you donít get
the respect or credit you deserve. Youíre not growing personally or in
your relationships because you said you miss out on many opportunities.
What are getting for your efforts?
You got yourself into this situation and only you can get yourself out.
There is some reason you have been willing to sacrifice everything that is
in your best interest to benefit others, but Iím not sure I know what it
When you change your circumstances will. Stop working without breaks
and start caring for yourself as much as you care about work. Stop working
for less than you are worth and start asking for a raise. Stop neglecting
your relationships and start taking time to build them and doing other
things that are important to you.
If you are serious about getting what you want then stop doing what you
are doing. Speak up and stand up for yourself. When you start showing more
respect for yourself youíll see more respect from others.
Sue Morem is a professional speaker, trainer and syndicated columnist. She
is author of the newly released
101 Tips for Graduates and
How to Gain the Professional Edge, Second Edition. You can contact her by email at
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