A Weekly Q&A Column About Professionalism, Etiquette and Problems in the Workplace
by Sue Morem
Office Romance Gone Bad
Dear Sue: I'm a single woman and I had an affair with my boss.
Just before our affair ended I told my boss in good faith about an
incident with two of my colleagues that had upset me. Up until that time
I was on good terms with my colleagues. We all work in an open space and
work facing each other the entire day.
I found out that my boss told my two colleagues what I said about them
and now they're both angry at me for what I said. They told me not to
talk to them ever again and have turned my other colleagues against me.
Even my boss, who was my lover, is now cold and distant.
I asked to be transferred to a different department which seems to
have upset my boss even more. He is now refusing to talk to me and is
encouraging others to bully me even more. What should I do?
Sue Says: Hang in there. You have taken steps to get out of
what has become a difficult situation and hopefully you will soon be on
your way. The best you can do now is to learn from what has happened and
start anew. Hold your head high and know the difficult situation you
must endure is temporary. Don't let your boss or anyone get the best of
you. Stay strong--you've lost a lot already. Keep in mind that people
who bully you want to get the best of you, but you don't have to allow
them to succeed. I wish you the best and I hope you'll let me know how
you are doing.
Sue Morem is a professional speaker, trainer and syndicated columnist. She
is author of the newly released
101 Tips for Graduates and
How to Gain the Professional Edge, Second Edition. You can contact her by email at
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