A Weekly Q&A Column About Professionalism, Etiquette and Problems in the Workplace
by Sue Morem
Don't Be Overlooked
Dear Sue: I left my last job when someone else got the position
I was hoping Iíd get. My manager seemed surprised when I told her I was
disappointed. Now that I have another job I want to be sure I am not
overlooked a second time. What do I need to do to ensure this doesnít
Sue Says: You need to make your desires and ambitions known.
Never assume management or anyone else knows what you want; no one can
read your mind. People focus on their own issues and problems first; few
have the time to worry or wonder about everyone else. Never assume others
know how you feel or what you want. Hinting at what you want by making
subtle or sarcastic remark isnít enoughóyouíve got to be specific and tell
others what you need. It doesnít do any good to hope for a promotion or
anything else you want if no one else knows what youíre hoping for.
Whether you want a promotion, an increase in income, or an
understanding of what you need to do to get what you want, say something.
Donít keep it a secret or talk to others who have nothing to do with the
situation--talk to the people involved and be specific about your desires
and intentions. Donít rely on others to speak for you, drop hints, or beat
around the bush. People canít read your mind or fill in the blanks.
If you want something, itís up to you to get it. Let others know what
you need and ask for what you want. Thereís no guarantee youíll get what
you ask for, but you will increase your chances.
Sue Morem is a professional speaker, trainer and syndicated columnist. She
is author of the newly released
101 Tips for Graduates and
How to Gain the Professional Edge, Second Edition. You can contact her by email at
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