How to Handle Counter Offers
by Brian Moore
Congratulations, you’ve just accepted an offer for the job you’ve been
chasing for months. You are excited and relieved, but you’re wondering how your
boss is going to react when you resign. Will the reaction be understanding,
angry, shocked or dismissive. How do you react when one of your best performers
resigns to you?
Some of the more common thoughts that the boss may have are:
- He’s one of my best performers. How am I supposed to replace him, keep the
team together, and achieve budget?
- What inconvenient timing – I was about to go on annual leave for 3 weeks
- How am I going to look to the board/senior management for losing this
- Where is he going?
- Can I get her to stay until I find a replacement and have an effective
- How can I get her to stay?
If you are a valuable resource, then your boss and your company won’t want to
see you walk out the door, especially to the competition. They will make every
attempt to convince you to stay, either by:
- Making you a counter offer
- Making you feel incredibly guilty and disloyal
- ‘Loving’ you liked they’ve never ‘loved’ you before – be suspicious of
Being made an attractive counter offer is instantly good for your ego, but
you must take a number of things into consideration before saying “thanks” or
- You have only received a counter offer because you resigned. It is a
purely reactive tactic from your employer and should make you wonder whether
you need to resign every time you want to improve your situation. If your
employer thought you were truly worthy, why didn’t they improve your situation
- Do your reasons for wanting to leave still exist? You may have a number of
reasons – salary too low, no promotion in sight, don’t like your boss. You may
be offered more money to stay, which can be tempting, but if you still have
other issues outstanding, you’ll probably end up leaving anyway.
- Despite what your employer is saying to you, they will probably now
consider you a risk and may make contingency plans without your knowledge. You
may not be seen as a true member of the team
- The counter offer could simply be an interim tactic from your employer to
bridge a gap whilst they look to replace you.
Much research and many surveys have been completed over the years to measure
what happens to employees who accept counter offers. Only 6 out of 100 employees
are still with their company after 12 months, and 2 important points become
- Salary was hardly ever the prime motivator for resigning – more money
didn’t ultimately change the true state of play
- Things didn’t take long to return to the way they were before the
Before accepting a counter offer, ask yourself why your employer has made the
offer. There is a strong possibility that the cons will outweigh the pros and
you will realize that your decision to resign was right after all.
Brian Moore is Managing Director of Brian Moore
International Limited (BMI) based in Hong Kong. He has specialised in executive
recruitment and career management in Asia Pacific for over 11 years. Learn more
at www.bmi.com.hk or contact
Brian at firstname.lastname@example.org